Real Life, Real-Asian-Ship
Has coupledom been a part of every Eartherns’ life?
For Asians around the world, relationship and marriage is
considered to be one of an unquestioned path that one needs and would have to
go through. Like a five-year old about to enter their childhood years, adults
are expected to be, and belong to a couple based relationship to be considered
an “established” figure. More often than not, a single successful man or woman
would be glanced with a sheer empathy out of their ringless fingers. Regardless
of their content and comfortable personal state of mind, society stamped them
as a somewhat rejected items, of an unsold product no matter how often it was
on “sale”, “reduced”, and re-“reduced”.
Has fate been so singly layered, with no other dimensions
BUT the one “true”, “correct” and “appropriate” way? Certain marriage lifestyle
that would be of a close custom for Asians would be the familiar “rich man –
pretty woman” entangleship.
He would be an average looking guy, with no less than a big
house and luxurious cars, business or companies that had been established, or
even better, handed over from previous generation. She would be gorgeous and
fertile, with a personality that matches his mother and sisters, and a high
school certificate or university degree that would never be of any use for her
future marriage “career”.
One or two years down their marriage path, she would be
pregnant, give birth, go out shopping and sipping the classy café au-lait
whilst the maids at home take care of her five-days-old infant. And so that’s
how they shall spend their closely knitted child-mother bond for their
remaining lifetime. Whilst numbers got added into the year calendar and she
gets older and less attractive, he would rest his eyes on others who are more
favourable and eye-soothing, and body-pleasing. Power and materials would
dominate their insecure life, he would leave her and she would be bitter all
her life, and their children would continue their superficial lives.
Has life been dominated by material values throughout all of
our existence? Would the cavemen allow their cavedaugthers marry only the
cave-owners and compatible hunters?
What about our single,
successful, smart and independent members of the society who are happily
married to themselves? Would it not be a lot more favourable to accomplish one
single satisfying life than to resentfully endure a pre-conditioned lifestyle
only to live up to the society’s standard?
JK
